Relationship between parents and children is supposed to be the closest one but with growing demands and expectations, it needs counselling. Going through a lot of news articles and media coverage, we are forced to think as to what is going so wrong that it is forcing children to take drastic steps like suicides. Suicide numbers have increased in the past few months. The rate at which students have committed suicides is alarming.
The biggest issue is education related as parents expect their kids to always excel and the pressure of competition is not bearable at all. The fact that parents are working round the clock to provide a good life to the children, especially higher education, is creating a gross communication gap between children and their parents. The strangling pressure on a child to create good results all the time and when not done, the comparison with other children is pushing the kids into the dungeons of depression. As a result, some have become highly revolting and a large number under depression have put an end to their lives. Not being able to achieve what their parents want and the fear of social insults for parents and themselves along with not being able to open up their inner feelings is making the children take such devastating steps. It is obvious that the children do not understand the shock that is attached with this step as they do not find the right counselling at home which is the only way to bring them out of this darkness.
Putting forward my views on this, the parents need a counselling in this matter. Then only will they be able to come out of the ‘competition’ they force upon their kids. Instead of asking the kid to excel in examinations, he should be asked to do his best. As per Geeta “Karm kiye jaa, fal kee chinta mat kar” should be made known to the kids but before that the parents need to learn this. Not all children who excel in examinations make good leaders or even good human beings. So the first thing that they need to hear from parents is that effort is important, result is not.
The era of competition needs to end for kids at least. With the growing school course structures, each kid has been jailed to home, eyes always down with heads hanging on books or eyes surfing the net for extra details or even heading to tuitions. Detailing is good, but then interest of the kid in the subject is more important. Interest develops the urge to learn, and learning very truly gives good result. We need to enforce this thinking on the parents of this modern world that a child’s mental growth can be developed only if he is set free to learn on his own or with assistance but pressure on his mind will take away all that he was born with. Innocence is lost, all are blowing it off by pushing him to score marks. We are forgetting that marks do not make a man, they mark a child with dark memories which in turn suppress the willingness to grow. After seeing so many children in depression, parents need to take lesson…they need to move away from their work station and give ample time to the child trying to understand his capacity before forcing him to be capable.