Suitable match for smart, fair, handsome boy MCA, working in a MNC. Suitable match for fair, beautiful Brahmin girl, convent educated, working in an international school, caste no bar.
We all must have read such matrimonial adds in leading newspapers and magazines. In first appearance they look like fairness company’s adds or It seems that we are living in UK or USA where only fair people live. Nobody wants black boy or girl.
I have seen this from my childhood. People are mad after fair skin. A girl’s education, family, investiture or culture are pointless if she is not fair. This mentality can be seen in every family of our society.
Kalpana was a very intelligent girl. She studied in the best school of her city. But she did not have many friends. After completing her MBA , she joined a big company. She could not make any boy friend and whenever she tried to talk to any of her colleagues, she got bad remarks about her skin colour. She is still waiting for a suitable match. Everyone comes with a deal, either you have to give dowry or you have to be fair.
Fair complexion and white colour are usually considered to be the symbol of beauty. Our dolls and famous cartoon characters or fairy tale characters are mostly white.
Have you ever seen any advertisement who is showing dusky beauties? We love black hair but black skin don’t appeal us.
Our indian skin is brown or black which looks really good but after seeing Fair beauties of West, we have started hating our skin colour.
I am nobody to comment on the thought process of our society but black is indeed Beautiful. It’s all about changing our mindsets. Priyanka Chopra, Deepika Padukone or Bipasha Basu are famous Indian actresses with dusky complexion. Priyanka Chopra was being harassed in USA and she took time to settle in America. Now she is considered among the most successful Indian actresses who have worked in Hollywood. Oprah Winfrey is black and many successful women are remembered by their skills and not by skin colour.
It’s just a colour. Black or white hardly matters. One must focus on the abilities of a girl while searching for the partner. It’s not possible to change the colour of your skin but it’s really possible to change the mindset. Black people have all rights to live in this world with dignity and equality. Hopefully from now we will start looking at them with different prospective.