Every mother, be it American, British, Chinese or Indian shares the same virtue of motherhood towards their kids. If mother’s nature is divided on the basis of geography, I would rather say that a mother would still be a mother, no matter where she hails from. That inner tenderness & protective feeling for her kid is omnipresent factor. When Amy Chua, a Chinese writer categorized mother’s nature geographically in her international bestseller “Battle hymn for a Tiger Mother”, I was intrigued to dig deep. Mothers are being pigeon holed geographically now like Tiger mom, like Helicopter mom (Keeps surrounding kids always like helicopter), Busy mom (Who wants her kid to be busy like her by making him involved in various activities), Chimer-inner (Chimes in even when not needed), Me-first mom (self Absorbed), Clueless mom (Confused), Alarmist mom (the one who keeps calling every hour to know the kid’s whereabouts), Comparer mom (The one who keeps comparing), Depressor mom etc. She has differentiated Western & Eastern mothers with an acute analysis of Chinese mother by calling them “Tiger moms”. Tiger moms are sort of exaggerating and bossy nature, but being a mom the concerns are same-Proper mental & physical growth of kid. Chinese moms have a firm grip over their kids and never let them attend any sleep over at friend’s home, Have a play date, Be in a school play, or even watching TV or playing computer games is prohibited. When such classifications are gaining ground, I felt to write about my Mother – The Indian mother. I may not be able to describe such a beautiful angel in this world, but I felt duty bound to describe about Indian mom. Something about Indian moms.
Well, If Chinese moms are Tiger moms, why Indian mother should be left behind, Indian moms are Lioness, Who knows when to tighten the reigns & when to let it go loose. Indian moms too have their own specialty. They can be a balance between Western & Chinese moms. When it comes to categorizing Indian mother, it would be like dotting I’s and crossing the T’s as India is a country with unity in diversity. Here are few points which say many things about Indian mother. Anxiety about kids:
The motherly concern is omnipresent factor in all moms of the world. Be it mother from any corner of the world. Mothers can’t be cherry picked keeping anxiety factor in mind. Indian mother expresses her concerns in various ways. Indian moms sometimes can sometimes call their kids a “piece of garbage” in order to bring them on the right track, and other times she can protect her kid through standing by him to face the failures. Both ways lead to positive outcomes, what is needed is the keen understanding to use them at right time. Perception about kid’s growth:
In this matter following perception exist in Chinese, Western & Indian moms which is :
- Chinese mom-Nothing is fun if you are not good at it. (According to Amy Chua)
- Indian mom- Do what you love, love what you do.
- Western mom- There must be some fault at the teaching system or where ever my kid is working. Fault is not in my kid.