Power of NO: A female perspective
No is a small word but it has deep meaning. Here I am focusing on female right to say no to forced sex. I had read somewhere that a real man can’t rape women because he understands the true meaning of love. Without love sex is impossible. If you do it without love then it […]
No is a small word but it has deep meaning.
Here I am focusing on female right to say no to forced sex. I had read somewhere that a real man can’t rape women because he understands the true meaning of love. Without love sex is impossible. If you do it without love then it comes in the category of forced sex or rape.
A young girl who wears skirt or shorts doesn’t mean that she is available for every male. Why has she always been targeted for her life style? Why does everyone have a right to comment on her virginity and purity? Why can’t she have dinner with a male friend? Why can’t she go alone to watch a movie?
Please show me a single family who don’t give lecture to their daughters. Every work is prohibited for girls which a boy can do openly because girls have been brought up with a tag of good or bad on their characters. Anything can destroy their dignity and respect in minutes. Pinky was raped because she was wearing shorts. Lakshmi was killed by her husband because she said no to him. Lata was attacked by a neighbour because she refused his love proposal. Jeena lost her life because her brother has doubt on her character.
I want to raise a question here, WHY?
Do females have responsibility to develop a healthy society? Men should never be taught to be in his limits. I have seen educated people arguing on this topic. I was talking to a male on this topic few days back and he told me to change my mind. He clearly told me that I am not a social reformer who can go door to door to teach others. This is a male dominated society and I can’t question on this. I should remain calm and learn to live with this.
Unfortunately I refused.
I am not a rebellious who is fighting for anything which is inappropriate. I am asking for a good society in which I can move freely without listening to any foolish comments on my character. I need freedom to fly high. I have good mental abilities. Please judge me by the power of mind and not by my looks.
I can’t use my skills if I am being judged everyday. How can I give my best if I am target for every single move.
I can say No whenever I want.
Married women don’t know their rights. Husband’s take them for granted. She is forced to have sex sometimes. No one bothers whether she wants it or not. Can a woman do this with a man?
NO has immense power. If a girl is laughing in public or dresses according to her comfort, why does she get criticism? Drinking is another big problem. If a man does, he is called macho and if a woman does , she is called by different names which I don’t want to write here.
Come on ,change your thought process. World has changed. You have allowed females to go out and do jobs. Reason may be money or financial status. But why do you want her to not to talk with males? How is this possible if you work in a company and given permission to talk to females only. How would you avoid males at your workplace?
Some families get indulged into this and give funny reasons. In a recent case Namita was questioned by a colleague’s wife. Her colleague’s wife puts allegations on Namita that she is destroying her family life by talking to her husband. No body protected Namita. Everyone preached her to stay away from her colleague. Namita could not say No to this injustice. She was close to her colleague but in a positive way.
Females must understand the power of no.
Say no when you are falsely accused.
Say no when someone comments on your character.
Say no when you dont like stupid comments on your personality and looks.
Say no to those who comment on your character.
Say no to every negative comment you have been forced to listen.
Say no to forced love.
Say no whenever you are questioned wrongly?
Know your rights, stand up and defend yourself.
If you can’t who else will?
Being a lady is not a problem, problem is to be weak and lament on this situation.
I have no intention to hurt any male. I have a request to make, Please change your mindsets and let us live with dignity.
Article contributed by our reader: Hritu Sodhi