Indian weddings…now and then
We, the Indians, united by the oaths solemnly pledge to spend less on our wedding celebrations and save for the generations to come…wonder if this could become a part of the mantras enchanted so as to save our economy, also resulting in lesser and lesser people going under depression because of debts and loans taken […]
We, the Indians, united by the oaths solemnly pledge to spend less on our wedding celebrations and save for the generations to come…wonder if this could become a part of the mantras enchanted so as to save our economy, also resulting in lesser and lesser people going under depression because of debts and loans taken to have the most lavish and forever talked about wedding celebrations.
I am not against celebrations, all I wish to draw attention upon is the fact that wedding planning itself has become an expensive affair not just by means of money but also time. This is because people are more into pomp and show and here is where too many sacred aspects are lost.
Nowadays, taking leave for your own wedding has become a difficult task. Long absence could mean loss of job. Everything, meaning every celebration and ritual, needs to be cut short and ways and means are literally planned to have the best yet less time consuming wedding. Best definitely means more burden on pocket and less time means cutting short of those long duration oaths that actually meant a lot as it has been believed since ages that the oaths taken during weddings with those specific mantras are the main cause that bring a positivity in married life.
Recital of mantra along with the pandit at the time of ‘feras’ was meant to encircle you with the positivity that went into you with the aroma of havan kund fumes. Alas! The thought that all this would take hours made the pandits shorten the length of mantras, on request of course, snatching away the good results this could have lifelong.
Wedding celebrations always meant get-together of entire families whom you wouldn’t meet on regular basis. “This is your so and so” are almost no more taken care of genuinely with the only thought that the next meeting with that particular person was almost impossible…credit(or the debit) always blamed on time. The burden of tackling too many people whom you have hardly known also plays an important role in shrinking of ceremonies. The old banna-banni traditional sangeet ceremonies are long lost, filmy music has grabbed every scene. The old style of geet-sangeet was always dedicated to the kuldevta or kuldevi seeking blessing with every traditional song along with the “thaap” of “dholak”. Everyone used to dance to the beats of “dhol” as the vibrations made everyone sway enough and everybody’s feet went tapping and thumping on the floor. Do the modern era musical instruments create that effect? No, they don’t. The vibrations of the traditional musical instruments were said to drive away negative energies, also lightening up minds and bodies to feel enlightened to dance.
Weddings have only ended up in competition, and when the bonds do break by means of divorce or separations, ever wondered how all that extra expense has gone down the drain? Think about this… we will come back with more as per your comments that are needed very honestly to make me write further.