“You can’t give a smile away; it always comes back.” – Susan Roane

A smile is one of the most powerful and most underrated gifts that we, as humans, possess. When we smile, something lights up inside us; we connect to our Source and we are actually able to alter our mood. It brings optimism into our life, and makes it easier to avoid worries and negative thinking. If it is adopted as a way of life, it would bring constructive changes into our life, and make us happier, brighter and more successful.

The smile is a universal sign of happiness. It is the ultimate connection between all humankind. No matter how big or small, if a smile is genuine it creates an ineffable feeling in the atmosphere. Sometimes, when no words can be spoken, a smile is all that is needed to fill the air.  A smile is   a way of showing our happiness, love, friendliness, appreciation and kindness. A smile has special powers. We can calm fear, insecurity, hurt and anxiety not only in ourselves, but in those who are experiencing such feelings. Observe the feeling of warmth that wells up in our belly as we smile. In fact, a smile can make the saddest of circumstances a little better.

When we smile and laugh, a number of physiological changes occur in our body, mostly without us being consciously aware of it happening. A good laugh can help us release emotions, especially those emotions that we might bottle up inside. Interaction with others is easier and more enjoyable when smiles and laughs are shared. These behaviours are contagious, making others feel better too. People who frequently smile are perceived to be more in control, at ease and attractive than those who don’t.  A smiling, relaxed persona indicates confidence and an ability to cope well in stressful situations.

Laughing releases endorphins that can help relieve stress and anxiety; most people like to laugh and will feel drawn to somebody who can make them laugh. Don’t be afraid to be funny or clever, but do ensure your humour is appropriate to the situation.  Use your sense of humour to break the ice, to lower barriers and gain the affection of others.  By using appropriate humour you will be perceived as more charismatic.

The next time someone is feeling sad, scared or nervous, smile with them and see how this makes them feel!

Author Info:  Rukhsana Saifee is Asst. Professor at the Chartered Institute of Technology, Abu Road.